Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold.~Proverbs 3:13-14
I believe there are no coincidences in life. I believe God has a plan and purpose for all encounters. If it is something ugly, unjust, unfathomable, unbelieveable, it isn't the works of God but rather our enemy-Satan. Oh yes, he is real but that is not what I want to share with you.
God has great plans for all of us. Are you willing to listen and follow His instruction? Well I sure am glad I did on a morning I wasn't feeling very good. My body was definitely trying to fight off a cold for days prior to and now I have lost my voice. So I started texted all my clients to let them know that I wasn't feeling very healthy and didn't have a voice; that it would be up to them if they wanted to come in for their massage. Believe it or not all my regulars decided to stay away but two chose to come in, my very first appointment was a new client for 30 minutes. I figured I could do 30 minutes, it isn't that bad. I wish I had way more than 30 minutes that morning with her. And it wasn't to do massage. It was to pour into her all that God had intended for her to hear from the Holy Spirit through my mouth.
I never expected a new client to start sharing such personal information but it was clear she was angry and hurt. The minute she started talking about her failed marriage I knew God wanted her to see me that day.
You see, my marriage had been failing for many years and by the grace of God, He saved it! I was ready to walk away and be done but I couldn't say those "words" just yet. Something was tugging on my heart and I couldn't quite let go. So, I moved into the other room, just as many couples do as a start. Then out the door to my parents house. But that only lasted a week because it had already been several months that I had been processing all this and looking at myself. Key word being "MYSELF". We are so quick to point the finger at the other person. But we all know that when you point one finger at someone, there are three pointing back at you. Yes, I had realized where I had failed as a wife according to God's Word. I put my child first, myself, God, then my husband. What a shot at my husband's heart. I made him feel unworthy, disrespected and caused him to withdrawal more than he already does being an introvert. I took his role- the leader of the house- away from him. That is not what God intended. I am suppose to put God first, then my husband. I am to respect my husband and submit to him out of reverence for Christ. Submit as in to be his helpmate, putting all my talents, resources, abilities and energy at my husband's disposal. That's not being his slave or being inferior to him, nor does it mean being passive or not being able to give advise. God doesn't want us disobeying His Word.
So what did I share with my new client that day? I shared, she needed to find out what her husband's love language is and start pouring into him that way. Stop taking the lead and let him be the head of household. It isn't too late to get back what you once had, all you have to do, is do it God's way!
"A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." ~Proverbs 12:4
Jesus willingly laid down His life for the glory of God. No one took it from Him. ~John 10:17-18, 17:4
